I have written my blog for years about positivity. Seeing the life lessons or positivity in something. And I have to say while I live that 95% of my life. Some days, it just sucks. So if you are having a shitty few weeks, I feel ya. And I get it. And I am sure some of you are going through much harder times.   We have been looking for a house for 5 months and we just lost another one to someone who outbid us. We lost it over a stupid term we put in our contract that we did not even know was going to be an issue. I literally feel like it has become my full time job looking for houses and we cannot find one that works and we actually get. Deals have fallen through, we have been outbid, and we have had so many highs and lows. And of course, I have taken on the majority of the work around this. A self elected choice that I am now getting …

“We do not learn so much by our successes as we learn by failures– our own and others. Especially if we see the failures properly corrected.”– Frank Lloyd Wright I really liked this quote. For two reasons– One if gives you reassurance failure is good in any capacity to a certain extent- at work, in relationships, in day to day life…or even in sports. Two, it focuses on the second chance to get it right. And to learn and find a way to correct the failure. To actually the potential to still come out on top. I am the eternal optimist.  And I truly believe anyone can change a behavior or correct a failure, as long as you learn from your mistake. I do truly believe everything works out in the end. You read so many success stories of people who were fired and then later became incredibly success. Destroyed a relationship to later repair it; Or move on but learn for the next one. Every parent makes a mistake parenting to do better the next …

This quote is so true. We often don’t know how important a particular event is going to be, how much it will mean to us, and what kind of memory it will be until it is over. And are we staying in the moment? Are we present so we don’t lose that memory? Do you soak in the interaction, the laughs, the hugs, the kiss, the twinkle in someone’s eye? Or are you focused on your phone, your mood, what you need to do next, etc? Are you distracted or are you focused on the moment that will be engrained into your memory? Some of my favorite memories are with someone I saw for the last time or that I don’t see very often anymore. And I didn’t know it at the time, but that moment with them is so important to my memories. It is a huge piece of my joy. Those moments we don’t get back and don’t fully appreciate. The quiet moments. The subtle moments. What memories are you making this week?

As you end and start your next week, I wanted to remind us all that self doubt, anxiety, and fear (my theme for this week from my Monday post) can be replaced by focusing and channeling our energy on positive forward focused dreams and aspirations. I have many wonderful people in my life that suffer from self doubt which paralyzes their ability to really go for what they want. They can speak of their future but always stop short of trying to achieve it . And so today, I hope this blog and the quotes above help give you a little nudge forward. For me, it is about forgiving yourself, not focusing on what you can’t do but what you can. And just fake it until you make it. Keep your head in a positive place and surround yourself with people and things that also help you stay in that place. That can include friends, family members, healthy diet, and lots of natural light and nature.  If you don’t have that healthy positive environment, go …

“I have found that most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”– Abraham Lincoln I thought this quote was interesting. If you are not happy, does that mean you made up your mind not to be? Is it all mental and how you approach each day? What happens if you have no control over a decision someone else makes that impacts your happiness? Is it then up to you to still draw happiness through the hurt? Is happiness all attitude? If you are not happy, did you make up your mind to be lazy and not really try to be happy? Were you self destructive? Or is it just you aren’t lucky or have a horrible circumstance occur in life? Or you didn’t trust your instinct?  Or if someone else around you screws up, totally out of your control and it impacts your happiness, how much is on you? I think if I really explore that quote it is fairly true.  I do believe while fate, chance, karma, and …