All posts filed under: Refueling Mind

Temperament: Approach to Day

Well I’m a bit late in writing this given a work emergency that forced me to take a trip. But better late than never. I’ve been thinking more about happiness lately. Like my last post, it is on my mind. Why are some people so positive and some so negative. Yet both may be dealt the same exact card. Some people refuel, breathe the air in, and are so much more resilient. Why is that? After a few hectic days of travel and a lot just going on right now between work and personal plans and moving soon (need to move due to our landlord moving back in), I decided I need to breathe and reboot a bit more. I just did a meditation through my phone as I sit on the plane and then took a nap. I need to slow down. I’m a bit too wired after having worked the last five days straight well into the evenings (had to work the weekend on a rare occasion). And after my meditation and nap, I …

Happiness- A choice?

“I have found that most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”– Abraham Lincoln I thought this quote was interesting. If you are not happy, does that mean you made up your mind not to be? Is it all mental and how you approach each day? What happens if you have no control over a decision someone else makes that impacts your happiness? Is it then up to you to still draw happiness through the hurt? Is happiness all attitude? If you are not happy, did you make up your mind to be lazy and not really try to be happy? Were you self destructive? Or is it just you aren’t lucky or have a horrible circumstance occur in life? Or you didn’t trust your instinct?  Or if someone else around you screws up, totally out of your control and it impacts your happiness, how much is on you? I think if I really explore that quote it is fairly true.  I do believe while fate, chance, karma, and …

Fake It Until You Feel It

So first, apologize to those readers who follow me! I was gone last weekend for a very good reason. My sister got engaged and we surprised her by being up in NY for it! So last Sunday we were driving all day to get back down to home. So excited for her and Bruce. And such fun to see their joy and enthusiasm for their future. Now….to my topic this week. I am realizing more and more, attitude and mood is a choice.  When we repeatedly do something, it is a habit.  And how you see the world can become a habit. What I mean by this is, some people are just overly negative to everything. Or focus so much on self-doubt or dark places, that it is a habit. It just their “go-to” attitude. Yet, it doesn’t have to be. I am all for being in tune with your emotions and allowing yourself to feel sad, happy, emotional, etc. for moments in time (just not forever). It is important to really feel and understand …

Modern Medicine vs. Way of Life

I have been reading a lot about how lifestyle affects our health lately. One chapter written by Dr. Jim Nicolai in a booked called Mindful Living estimates ” that a whopping 70-90% of the diseases he sees in his practice have a lifestyle component and that in the majority of those cases, stress- usually taking from the form of anxiety, depression, or insomnia is the major culprit.” And better than any pill he prescribes, the way you live has the biggest cure rate. “Lifestyle is the new pill.” By no means does that correlate to the ONLY reason people get sick nor that medicine is not a necessity in certain circumstances (I know this more than anybody between being a daughter of a pharmacist and working in the healthcare profession my entire life thus far), but lifestyle has a huge impact on our life expectancy. And the quality of our time here on earth. Beyond the obvious things like smoking, diet, excessive drinking, and harmful substances, more and more, it is proven that your emotional …

Power of a Good Book

The power of a good book is pretty incredible. It is like an amazing dessert, a wonderful vacation, the great escape, and a total restorative move. It is such a lovely luxury amongst our busy lives. And can take you to places you never thought you’d go– you can travel the world or someone’s life through a good character and well written descriptions. It can be simply amazing and refuel you in all ways. There is nothing like when you can’t put it down and it is such a good page turner you are forcing yourself to stay up to the last page. And then so disappointed it is over. I believe in spending as much time as possible with your loved ones (I was lucky enough to do just that this weekend), with nature, and in the present. But there is also something to be said for refueling yourself by curling up with a great read. Even if it is just to get in a chapter or a few pages after the kids are …

Meditation

As I wind down my Sunday evening and finish up my long weekend at Miraval (my annual refueling destination), I realize how important meditation is to my life. It allows me to free my mind of thoughts, wash the anxiety and stress away, and really be present in the moment. Afterwards, I just see and hear more of life around me. It allows me to truly feel alive vs in my thoughts. A my meditation expert here said “it provides a way to open your heart, release negativity, receive light, gain insights, and achieve a deeper sense of calm/peace.” I also am realizing how meditation can take many forms. The classic kind where you sit in silence, breathe, or walk through a guided meditation. But it can also be journaling, hiking, walking, walking a labyrinth (which I love doing here), cooking, and/or exercising. There are so many forms.  I did a drumming meditation today that was quite powerful. And tomorrow I’ll finish my stay with a morning meditation and sunrise yoga. Are you making time …

We are happiest when we are growing

“Happiness is neither virtue nor pleasure nor this thing nor that, but simply growth. We are happy when we are growing.”– William Butler Yeats I loved this quote because it is true, if we are growing, we are happy. We are moving forward. Progress in some way or moving in a direction wholeheartedly = Less regret and more self confidence/worth = happiness. Try to grow today or this week. Move in the direction you are aiming to go in some little way. Make a little change like I encouraged last week. With each step comes accomplishment and happiness! This week I worked on growing some of my relationships through communication and showing vulnerability. What are you going to try and grow?  

Changing it Up!

I was reading this week about doing a time management audit every 6 months. And I got excited. I love this idea. Consider which activities are impacting the quality of your life in a negative and positive way. Can you shed the negative ones or at least minimize? Can you increase the positive ones? What is causing you stress? Do you need to change up your wardrobe? Your house decorations? Do you need to move? Do you need to re-balance your work/life priorities? What have been your stressors? Do you need to change it up with a vacation somewhere you haven’t been? Have you made it to the restaurant or museum you’ve had on your list? Did you make enough time with friends, your partner, yourself? Are you watching too much TV? Spending too much time on your phone or technology? I just did my own self audit this week. I’m changing up my workouts (started this last Monday), doing a few wardrobe changes, starting using two new skin care products, and re-prioritizing time for myself …

Do you really want something…or are we just programmed?

This week, I’ve been exploring this idea of really knowing when we want something vs feeling programmed. We are programmed to want everything all the time. To want what we see on TV, on facebook, and what we were told since birth ….through movies, books, and our parents. The prince, the big house, making a lot of money, kids, a big wedding, a partner, happiness all the time, sex all the time, a great job or a partner that makes so much money you don’t work, a huge social circle, fabulous vacations, seamless days of no stress, perfect figure, perfect hair, no vices, etc.  We are programmed to crave these things. So much so, that when do you know when you really want them verses being programmed to want them? I started to talk to a few people about this and it turns out a lot of people second guess what they want vs what they think they want/been told they want.  Is it okay to be nervous about what we have been programmed to …

Your relationship with yourself

I sometimes lose myself in the day to day. In my relationships, friends, Todd, work, and family. I forget to keep dating myself too. This weekend I started to realize this. I had a medical procedure done this week that left me unable to work out for 2 weeks and gave me some extra time in the evenings. Day 1-3 I was antsy. Had a headache due to my stitches, cooked up a storm, watched TV, and was just restless. I ended up doing my usual stuff- worked longer, worried about everyone else so cooked more for Todd, bought a few friends some gifts, bought flowers for my aunt, etc….Day 4-5 I spent with friends. I also noticed I was a bit more clingy to Todd. And I couldn’t figure out why not working out made me so restless. And then I realized when I work out, I can escape and reconnect with myself. It allowed me to escape and be in tune with my body and mind. So by Day 6 I realized this …