All posts filed under: Refueling Soul

Knowing the value of present day

“It is one of the saddest facts of human nature that we commonly only learn their value (of blessings) by their loss….There are times in the lives of most of us when we would have given all the world to be as were but yesterday, though that yesterday had passed over us unappreciated and unenjoyed.” – William Edward Hartpole Lecky   I read this quote yesterday and I think about conversations I have with people. Sometimes I’m guilty of it or sometimes the other person is, but so often someone in the dialogue is talking about something focused on the future or past and not present day. Or complaining about someone they love that is driving them crazy. Or anticipating the next change or wanting something different. I bet if most of us reflect on our discussions, we spend most of it focused on a desire or want in the future. Or complaining about something in the present.  The grass is always greener in the past or the future. And it is easy to complain. …

My journey to motherhood: I had no clue!

This journey is always such a personal one for each woman. You begin your adult life trying everything possible to not have a child- abstinence, birth control, and paying close attention to being as safe as possible to prevent this possibility. Then you think, when ready, I will just try and it will all lock in and work. And for so many, that is actually what happens. So many friends and women I know say, we just started trying and it just happened. Or we weren’t even trying yet and it just happened. Or you just need to relax and not stress out and it will just happen. Have sex when you are ovulating and it will happen. And on and on. In so many cases, that is what just happens.   However, for so many, that is not what happens. And after months of trying, you head to the doctor. And for me, due to my age, after six months, you are sent off to a fertility specialist. And I thought, well I’ll go …

Escaping with a Good book or TV Show

Since my last blog was so deep, I thought I’d share some really fun entertaining reads and TV shows to keep you balanced throughout the month. On the TV front, so really fun shows (less deep and intense) are Life in Pieces. A great comedy that is way underrated and surprisingly is on CBS! I love all the characters, witty and silly humor, and it keeps your attention with short stories. Dead to Me on Netflix so well done and is a dark comedy which both makes you feel an element of suspense, humor, and sadness all is one episode. And I like it because not only is the acting so good but they are only 30 minute episodes. If you need a go-to reality show that isn’t the housewives or HGTV, a solid go to favorite for us is Southern Charm. I am partial to anything in Charleston but it is also very entertaining. And a great escape visually all the way around with incredible acting….who doesn’t love Big Little Lies. The book is …

Refueling my Refueling Blog!

*Photo of a hike we took in Santa Barbara, CA in April 2019. I’m trying out my blogging journey and path again. My own unique path. Who wants to hike with me on this next phase? It has been over a year since I blogged. I just didn’t know exactly how I wanted to proceed. I have a bit of a love hate with it really. I love sharing my thoughts and connecting with others through it. I also am private so putting myself out there makes me feel vulnerable and exposed. So I’ve been keeping my blog private to those that sign up. Which means I’m also limited in followers. And at times, I want to touch people outside of that circle. So what do I do? So to fill this need, I’ve been journaling, completing my happiness journal everyday (for 4yrs straight now!), doing my monthly memory jar, and reading books. And connecting through conversations, book clubs, and reading other authors. My goal this year is to read 100 books. So far, I’ve …

Finding time for joy

In a time where around the world and in many parts of our own country there is so much violence and horrible acts of evil, it is important to remember there are so many wonderful people in the world. And so many wonderful things to celebrate so that evil doesn’t win. After a horrific situation in Vegas, I think it is important to remember those that are without a loved one and so many that lost their lives for a horrible nonsense reason. I also believe it is important to love a little deeper, laugh a little more, and find joy in the sadness.  After mourning, which for those affected will be a very long time, you have to figure out how to smile again so evil doesn’t win. We all (including myself) need to make sure we find the joy still. So this weekend was about finding that joy after a sad week. I LOVE October. It is baseball postseason and my Tribe is killing it so far! So it was a fun weekend …

Week 7 of Wanderlust: St Micheal’s Maryland and Changing of Season, Year, and other beginnings

  During week 7 of wanderlust, we traveled to St Michael’s, MD to enjoy a big house on the water with friends. We spent our weekend cooking big meals, lazy days and nights on a huge screened in porch looking at the water, naps, a massive croquet tournament, football, and lots of great memories.  Not a bad way to spend labor day weekend. We have been so lucky to be spending so much time with loved ones- both friends and family and will continue to well into the coming months. Our travel doesn’t stop for awhile!  (While I feel very lucky for all the adventures…also excited for some downtime to be a homebody soon too!). And during all this travel, something has shifted. A change in the air. A new beginning for my partner and I. We have been working hard on us, our future, and making sure we are ready for a life together. On making sure our communication is strong, we listening and hearing each other, we are fighting and growing together in …

Family and Beach Memories

It was a great week. I’m wiped out after a long day of unpacking and getting organized for the week to come. But it was worth it to enjoy a week at the beach with my family. I realize more and more, how precious these memories truly are and how quickly time passes. Todd’s parents also came for several days and we got to visit with a really good friend from NC that I absolutely adore. As I continue on my wanderlust summer journey (technically not up until end of September), I want to cherish my moments with my family.  Remember all the laughter, big family meals, and carefree days on the beach. I hope I always keep those memories. This week was about making memories that count. Ones that will be with me for life. And that will make me smile each time I close my eyes and think of them and us at the beach. Did you make any memories this week? Pictures courtesy of my iphone…..

Shades of Grey…. AND Week 5-6: Wanderlust August in Oregon, Boston, and North Carolina

Well I am behind on my blog posts due to my wanderlust traveling summer. August has been a busy month so far! Between trips to the Oregon coast, Boston, and North Carolina beaches….I am feeling very lucky. All while working full time and moving condos. And yet, I am feeling so refreshed and refueled as I am getting the opportunity to spend a lot of great quality time with my favorite people- my family and dear friends.  What are you doing the last half of summer? Are you finding new places to explore? Whether on a budget or in your own town or somewhere exotic? My summer of wanderlust challenge is for you and I. Hope you are tackling it with adventurous excitement and vigor. During my travel, I have had some down time to also reflect on a few things in my life. And just life in general.  I have been reading a lot of good books. And also talking to a lot of interesting people that I am meeting for the first time. …

Week 4: Wanderlust (in my own city this week)

Well, this is week four of my summer of wanderlust. This weekend was also in my own city before I start another whirlwind of travel. And it was so nice. This weekend was all me. I had the condo to myself and I had the schedule to myself. I read a great fun book that took me to a beautiful beach in Georgia (in my head). And I watched beachfront bargain hunt on HGTV for hours daydreaming about my beach house one day. I sat on a roof deck with friends and closed my eyes as the summer night breeze hit my face, had a great meal and conversation with a dear friend for lunch Saturday, got a facial, got a mani/pedi, and that was all before Sunday. It all felt so luxurious and peaceful to manage my time however I saw fit this weekend. It was a real treat!!  I committed to no plans (outside of Sunday tennis) and just went with how I felt each hour. Sunday is always my favorite refueling day …

Your own city: Sunday Wanderlust

As part of my wanderlust summer, I decided to have a tourist day with my favorite main squeeze and try out a few places I haven’t been to in awhile within our very own city. When I was single, I spent a lot more time wandering museums and enjoying art- whether in Charleston, Boston, or DC. And today, I got to do that again. We spent our afternoon exploring the Hirshhorn Museum, walking the DC mall, and walking through the national archives. After our DC Sunday, we snacked on a meat and cheese plate we made, sipped rose, and I went to my favorite yoga class.  Interestingly enough, within my yoga class, I was able to reach a very zen mediation that gave me the same calm as the ocean (which is absolutely the best place for my soul). I think a glass of rose and the peace of looking at fantastic art helped! And as I wind down and prepare for the next week, I am reminded on how important it is to enjoy …