All posts filed under: Refueling Mind

Modern Medicine vs. Way of Life

I have been reading a lot about how lifestyle affects our health lately. One chapter written by Dr. Jim Nicolai in a booked called Mindful Living estimates ” that a whopping 70-90% of the diseases he sees in his practice have a lifestyle component and that in the majority of those cases, stress- usually taking from the form of anxiety, depression, or insomnia is the major culprit.” And better than any pill he prescribes, the way you live has the biggest cure rate. “Lifestyle is the new pill.” By no means does that correlate to the ONLY reason people get sick nor that medicine is not a necessity in certain circumstances (I know this more than anybody between being a daughter of a pharmacist and working in the healthcare profession my entire life thus far), but lifestyle has a huge impact on our life expectancy. And the quality of our time here on earth. Beyond the obvious things like smoking, diet, excessive drinking, and harmful substances, more and more, it is proven that your emotional …

Power of a Good Book

The power of a good book is pretty incredible. It is like an amazing dessert, a wonderful vacation, the great escape, and a total restorative move. It is such a lovely luxury amongst our busy lives. And can take you to places you never thought you’d go– you can travel the world or someone’s life through a good character and well written descriptions. It can be simply amazing and refuel you in all ways. There is nothing like when you can’t put it down and it is such a good page turner you are forcing yourself to stay up to the last page. And then so disappointed it is over. I believe in spending as much time as possible with your loved ones (I was lucky enough to do just that this weekend), with nature, and in the present. But there is also something to be said for refueling yourself by curling up with a great read. Even if it is just to get in a chapter or a few pages after the kids are …

Meditation

As I wind down my Sunday evening and finish up my long weekend at Miraval (my annual refueling destination), I realize how important meditation is to my life. It allows me to free my mind of thoughts, wash the anxiety and stress away, and really be present in the moment. Afterwards, I just see and hear more of life around me. It allows me to truly feel alive vs in my thoughts. A my meditation expert here said “it provides a way to open your heart, release negativity, receive light, gain insights, and achieve a deeper sense of calm/peace.” I also am realizing how meditation can take many forms. The classic kind where you sit in silence, breathe, or walk through a guided meditation. But it can also be journaling, hiking, walking, walking a labyrinth (which I love doing here), cooking, and/or exercising. There are so many forms.  I did a drumming meditation today that was quite powerful. And tomorrow I’ll finish my stay with a morning meditation and sunrise yoga. Are you making time …

We are happiest when we are growing

“Happiness is neither virtue nor pleasure nor this thing nor that, but simply growth. We are happy when we are growing.”– William Butler Yeats I loved this quote because it is true, if we are growing, we are happy. We are moving forward. Progress in some way or moving in a direction wholeheartedly = Less regret and more self confidence/worth = happiness. Try to grow today or this week. Move in the direction you are aiming to go in some little way. Make a little change like I encouraged last week. With each step comes accomplishment and happiness! This week I worked on growing some of my relationships through communication and showing vulnerability. What are you going to try and grow?  

Changing it Up!

I was reading this week about doing a time management audit every 6 months. And I got excited. I love this idea. Consider which activities are impacting the quality of your life in a negative and positive way. Can you shed the negative ones or at least minimize? Can you increase the positive ones? What is causing you stress? Do you need to change up your wardrobe? Your house decorations? Do you need to move? Do you need to re-balance your work/life priorities? What have been your stressors? Do you need to change it up with a vacation somewhere you haven’t been? Have you made it to the restaurant or museum you’ve had on your list? Did you make enough time with friends, your partner, yourself? Are you watching too much TV? Spending too much time on your phone or technology? I just did my own self audit this week. I’m changing up my workouts (started this last Monday), doing a few wardrobe changes, starting using two new skin care products, and re-prioritizing time for myself …

Do you really want something…or are we just programmed?

This week, I’ve been exploring this idea of really knowing when we want something vs feeling programmed. We are programmed to want everything all the time. To want what we see on TV, on facebook, and what we were told since birth ….through movies, books, and our parents. The prince, the big house, making a lot of money, kids, a big wedding, a partner, happiness all the time, sex all the time, a great job or a partner that makes so much money you don’t work, a huge social circle, fabulous vacations, seamless days of no stress, perfect figure, perfect hair, no vices, etc.  We are programmed to crave these things. So much so, that when do you know when you really want them verses being programmed to want them? I started to talk to a few people about this and it turns out a lot of people second guess what they want vs what they think they want/been told they want.  Is it okay to be nervous about what we have been programmed to …

Your relationship with yourself

I sometimes lose myself in the day to day. In my relationships, friends, Todd, work, and family. I forget to keep dating myself too. This weekend I started to realize this. I had a medical procedure done this week that left me unable to work out for 2 weeks and gave me some extra time in the evenings. Day 1-3 I was antsy. Had a headache due to my stitches, cooked up a storm, watched TV, and was just restless. I ended up doing my usual stuff- worked longer, worried about everyone else so cooked more for Todd, bought a few friends some gifts, bought flowers for my aunt, etc….Day 4-5 I spent with friends. I also noticed I was a bit more clingy to Todd. And I couldn’t figure out why not working out made me so restless. And then I realized when I work out, I can escape and reconnect with myself. It allowed me to escape and be in tune with my body and mind. So by Day 6 I realized this …

Enjoying winter

Often times we look at winter as the months we try to get through. January and February is unpleasant, dark, and cold. And it usually leaves us yearning for sunshine and brighter days. We are grumpy and a bit more depressed. I could go on and on. However, I am coming to appreciate these two months. They slow me down a bit. I find myself still going outside just as much….just with more clothes on. And the coziness of home, blankets, candles, fireplaces, and good books keeps me feeling so peaceful and happy. There is nothing like a hot chocolate or tea, a good book or movie (or marathon TV watching), and a blanket. There is no guilt to have those quieter, cozy moments in the winter. They are expected. So instead of wishing them to pass by, how do you embrace winter? Cooking? Baking? Winter hikes? Skiing? Fun new workout? What is your winter habits? As my journey to live in the moment continues, I am celebrating cold winter days today! Last weekend, I …

Birthday Reflection

A bonus blog on my birthday weekend…..Every year I look back on the year that past and enjoy the moments. And get really excited about the year to come! So much happens in a year. And I realize it goes fast….but we also never spend a minute to enjoy and really look at  the year. Otherwise, it just feels like one big jumbled memory in the day to day. How do you document your memories to really enjoy them? Pictures? journaling? I read a great quote the other day in my happiness book: “Happiness is right here, right now– as in the 1908 play by Maurice Marterlinck, The Blue Bird, in which two children spend a year searching the world for the Blue Bird of Happiness, only to find it waiting for them when they finally returned home.” My goal is to wake up and realize the present. The moments that are so amazing in life. The laughter and funny moments. The joy in the small and big things. So that I have those memories …

Filling Your 2017 Jar

  Awhile a back I shared I have a worry jar. A place where I write down my worries and place them in a jar so I can let go of them (especially the one’s out of my control). And in doing that, it helps free me  of that worry. I also recently came across an idea from my friend Dawn that I am going to do this year as well. Todd agreed to do to it with me too so I’m excited. We are going to do each month so it is more realistic that we will complete this. Here is how it works: Each month, we are going to write down a memory of that month that we love. And put it in the jar. And then on New Years Eve of next year (2017), we are going to open them up and read the great memories. And celebrate the last year. I hope to make this an annual tradition. Does anyone else want to try this?! You can do every week or …