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Doubt and Fear

How much of the dreams you have are not fulfilled due to doubt or fear in yourself? Do you hold back from your career ambitions? Or from making the next move in your life with a love interest, starting a family, trying a new hobby, etc?

The more and more I talk to people, doubt and fear play such a huge role in the choices people make. And it kills so many dreams. So many of the regrets people have are about what they didn’t do. And when you ask why they didn’t do it, it is usually based off a fear or doubt in themselves.

So I challenge us as we start our workweek, throw away your anxiety, doubt, and fears to live the life that you will not regret. Very rarely do the worst scenarios come true. And if they do, we survive them. And the alternative, true happiness and fulfilling dreams is SOOO worth the risk. Don’t left doubt and fear win. Let joy, dreams, and the next step be your destiny.

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Hobbies

“To be really happy and really safe, one ought to have at least two to three hobbies, and they must all be real.”– Winston Chruchill

After a few more weeks of wanderlust- to Cleveland Ohio (caught a baseball at the Indians game!) and NYC I am ready to relax back at home. A wonderful few months of travel and wanderlust. And now time to explore my own city, relax at home and enjoy the change of season to fall.

As I settle back in to day to day life along with a hectic work schedule, I come to really think about the quote above. I have lots of hobbies. Is it time to fill that wanderlust void with a new hobby. Perhaps photography?

As I make sure my cup is running over with not only memories, family and love….but also hobbies. I truly believe in order to be fulfilled you need to love spending time with yourself and also keep evolving as a person. And in order to do this, you do need new hobbies and interests.

Do you have three hobbies? If so, what are they? and how do you keep them fresh, new, and interesting so you can keep growing?

Week 7 of Wanderlust: St Micheal’s Maryland and Changing of Season, Year, and other beginnings

 

During week 7 of wanderlust, we traveled to St Michael’s, MD to enjoy a big house on the water with friends. We spent our weekend cooking big meals, lazy days and nights on a huge screened in porch looking at the water, naps, a massive croquet tournament, football, and lots of great memories.  Not a bad way to spend labor day weekend.

We have been so lucky to be spending so much time with loved ones- both friends and family and will continue to well into the coming months. Our travel doesn’t stop for awhile!  (While I feel very lucky for all the adventures…also excited for some downtime to be a homebody soon too!).

And during all this travel, something has shifted. A change in the air. A new beginning for my partner and I. We have been working hard on us, our future, and making sure we are ready for a life together. On making sure our communication is strong, we listening and hearing each other, we are fighting and growing together in the same direction while working on ourselves….and it is paying off. We have invested and it is working. We have moved homes which also feels like a new era or change for us. And he turned 42 today, a start to a new year. And this weekend is the unofficial change of seasons too. So a lot of tides shifting and moving to a new season, new start, new approach. And it all finds me very excited for what is to come. A feeling of hope, excitement, and enjoyment for how mother nature changes, we change, and our surroundings change.

As I close out labor day weekend, I feel a sense of peace, happiness, and hope/excitement for this change of season. For this next phase of life and change. For football season, mother nature’s beauty of autumn, and our new adventures.

What are you hopeful for or excited about as we change seasons? What are you changing and evolving within yourself? As the sun sets this evening, what chapter are you opening or closing tomorrow or this fall?

As I looked out at the water while I swung on the swing like a kid again, I smiled with anticipation and also with a heart full of thankfulness and blessings. A few pictures from our trip are above courtesy of my iphone.

 

 

Family and Beach Memories

It was a great week. I’m wiped out after a long day of unpacking and getting organized for the week to come. But it was worth it to enjoy a week at the beach with my family. I realize more and more, how precious these memories truly are and how quickly time passes.

Todd’s parents also came for several days and we got to visit with a really good friend from NC that I absolutely adore.

As I continue on my wanderlust summer journey (technically not up until end of September), I want to cherish my moments with my family.  Remember all the laughter, big family meals, and carefree days on the beach. I hope I always keep those memories.

This week was about making memories that count. Ones that will be with me for life. And that will make me smile each time I close my eyes and think of them and us at the beach.

Did you make any memories this week?

Pictures courtesy of my iphone…..

Shades of Grey…. AND Week 5-6: Wanderlust August in Oregon, Boston, and North Carolina

Well I am behind on my blog posts due to my wanderlust traveling summer. August has been a busy month so far! Between trips to the Oregon coast, Boston, and North Carolina beaches….I am feeling very lucky. All while working full time and moving condos. And yet, I am feeling so refreshed and refueled as I am getting the opportunity to spend a lot of great quality time with my favorite people- my family and dear friends.  What are you doing the last half of summer? Are you finding new places to explore? Whether on a budget or in your own town or somewhere exotic? My summer of wanderlust challenge is for you and I. Hope you are tackling it with adventurous excitement and vigor.

During my travel, I have had some down time to also reflect on a few things in my life. And just life in general.  I have been reading a lot of good books. And also talking to a lot of interesting people that I am meeting for the first time. And this theme of living in the grey keeps coming up. So I have been exploring it a bit more in my reading and thinking this month.  As I get older, very little seems to be black or white. As I think about the next stage in my life, I have been talking to a lot of older couples asking the secret to staying together and also their own life experiences. And the constant theme in everything I read and also in all my discussions is the need to not just be absolute on anything. Life is messy. Be open to change, be open to the unexpected, and also be open to forgive. And try to grow together. The secret most couples have been telling me is, to just stay and fight through it. That at different times in the relationship, you fall in and out of love. And sometimes even stray and have an affair or think about leaving your partner. But if there is a foundation of love to build on…you stay and fight through it. You forgive, you grow together, your keep changing to be a better partner, and you keep pushing to stay connected and faithful. I spoke to one person that said that strength is staying and fighting through it.

I think a lot of this same advice can apply to life in  general. And there are times when staying and fighting it absolutely not the right thing (especially if a reoccurring theme happens that your partner is not changing), but a lot of the time, I think it is. And there is no one perfect partner, friend, or family member. They are all human, flawed and evolving. And you have to figure out how to manage that all while still growing yourself.

It is all so grey. Very rarely is the growth when the sun is shining or it is super stormy out, it is the grey moments. The moments that are day to day, or where you are trying to fight your way through but the dark moment has passed.

And so while I am being spoiled with amazing travel, I am also learning to live in the grey in my relationships and life. And I am coming to appreciate the grey days. The growth days. The ability to forgive, move forward, and stay and fight to improve a relationship or enhance what is already great- in friendships, family, and love.

I’m in the grey.  And a nice way to end my evening…especially since each morning I’ve been waking up to a cloudy grey beach and then as the afternoon moves on, the sky opens to sunshine. I think it is a sign.

Here are also a few of my favorites from my wanderlust month so far, courtesy of my iphone. Love the one of my dad with my friend’s two little girls!

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Week 4: Wanderlust (in my own city this week)

Well, this is week four of my summer of wanderlust. This weekend was also in my own city before I start another whirlwind of travel. And it was so nice. This weekend was all me. I had the condo to myself and I had the schedule to myself. I read a great fun book that took me to a beautiful beach in Georgia (in my head). And I watched beachfront bargain hunt on HGTV for hours daydreaming about my beach house one day. I sat on a roof deck with friends and closed my eyes as the summer night breeze hit my face, had a great meal and conversation with a dear friend for lunch Saturday, got a facial, got a mani/pedi, and that was all before Sunday. It all felt so luxurious and peaceful to manage my time however I saw fit this weekend. It was a real treat!!  I committed to no plans (outside of Sunday tennis) and just went with how I felt each hour.

Sunday is always my favorite refueling day of the week though. And today did not disappoint. I started by going for a very quiet peaceful walk this morning. It was early, the city was sleepy, there was no humidity and in the 70s (very rare for DC late July) and it was my time to just calm my mind and breathe. Then I made a nice breakfast and headed to the citiopen tennis tournament. A great professional tennis tournament in DC that is always so much fun. Met some friends there and watched some great tennis.

It is now 3pm and I’m taking time to journal and read before I bake a fun summer dessert- three berry cobbler. Then restorative yoga, a big Sunday meal and a good netflix show.

For me, sometimes, wanderlust is just being able to day dream, soak in something new or different, and taking in the summer sunshine. Wanderlust to me is escaping to a different place and soaking in something new and different.  Sometimes, it is just not having a plan and exploring your own city on your own schedule. Sometimes it is drinking a cold beer while you sit outside in the sun or sitting in the shade taking a catnap….all while daydreaming and enjoying the moment.

What are you doing this weekend to soak in summer? With every season, there is a new chapter or mood to our life. What is your chapter/mood of the summer?

Your own city: Sunday Wanderlust

As part of my wanderlust summer, I decided to have a tourist day with my favorite main squeeze and try out a few places I haven’t been to in awhile within our very own city. When I was single, I spent a lot more time wandering museums and enjoying art- whether in Charleston, Boston, or DC. And today, I got to do that again.

We spent our afternoon exploring the Hirshhorn Museum, walking the DC mall, and walking through the national archives.

After our DC Sunday, we snacked on a meat and cheese plate we made, sipped rose, and I went to my favorite yoga class.  Interestingly enough, within my yoga class, I was able to reach a very zen mediation that gave me the same calm as the ocean (which is absolutely the best place for my soul). I think a glass of rose and the peace of looking at fantastic art helped!

And as I wind down and prepare for the next week, I am reminded on how important it is to enjoy your city. Even yesterday, we enjoyed a musician on the street for 15 plus minutes, spoke to him about his passion, and learned he has quite a following (following him now on instagram). We went to a local restaurant and hung out with neighbors last night. Just a good weekend to reconnect within our own city. And still fulfill that wanderlust feeling. I realize more and more how important it is to take time to appreciate the great things within your own town. Sometimes they can refuel you as much as a day in a new place.

What is fun within your own town that you haven’t take advantage of in awhile?

*pictures from Hirshhorn (great exhibit by Ai Weiwei– the lego portraits)

 

Everything is temporary

I was reading a very good article tonight about 5 lessons of life. Most of which you don’t figure out until you are older yet seem very obvious. A dear family friend sent it to me. And while all definitely are true and resonated, one stuck out to me this evening.  It is the notion that everything is temporary. And it is so true.

Everything is temporary. As I wind down from two weeks in Croatia…which was absolutely breathtaking….I really come to appreciate this lesson of temporary. I had a few temporary moments. That beautiful sunset, swim in the Adriatic Sea, and the sun hitting my face as I ride on a boat in Montenegro….those were all moments in time. And I feel so very lucky for those moments. It also reinforces staying present! I will never get to experience those exact moments again.

On the opposite spectrum, this notion gives me comfort in some ways that everything is temporary. Any pain, hurt, or loss you feel in life is also only temporary. Life keeps moving. And strong emotions you feel that are negative (as well as positive) are temporary.

Everything has an expiration date. So it reminds me to take it all in stride. Jobs are temporary.  Your current age. Your current income level. Your current stressors. Your wardrobe (thank goodness when you look back on some of your choices). Partners are temporary….some last a lot longer than others. The joys and laughter in a current moment. Your time with your family. I could keep going on and on.

The point being, enjoy it while you have it. Enjoy and embrace the good times. And breathe and keep moving during the bad times…..As this to shall pass.

So as I get ready to go back to work tomorrow, I am thankful for being able to keep extending my temporary time on life to see so much. And I hope my journey takes me to some more beautiful places and I experience many more highs and lows. Why lows? The lows are what build the character and make you appreciate the good times.  It means I am feeling and experiencing this journey we are on. And the lows are also moments created by taking a chance on love or taking a risk in life.

I hope I keep breathing, put one foot in front of the other, always travel, and keep my head up so I can see all the life/world around me. I hope you do as well.

Here are a few pictures from my trip. Enjoy…..IMG_0314

 

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“We travel not to escape life, but for life not to escape us”- anonymous

As we head into July, my goal is to really focus on travel and adventures the rest of the summer to refuel. Sometimes with a partner, or a sister, or a friend….and sometimes by myself. The next two months, my goal is to devote to new adventures.

“Travel sparks our imagination, feeds our curiousity, and reminds us how much we all have in common.”– Deborah Lloyd

I’ll post pictures along the way to share my travel tips and adventures. More to come. Get out and travel this summer. And share your adventures too. Refuel your soul through adventures and experiences.

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Summer Slowdown

 

Lazy Summer days….. (Picture courtesy of my iphone while on the cape a few years ago)dscn1111

What are you doing to enjoy your summer? A reminder (for me more than anything!) to slow down and enjoy the summer. I realized today that June is almost over and it feels like any other month. It is time to get offline, slow down and enjoy the summer.

So I hope today, you just enjoy being outside in the sunshine and slow down. That is my plan the rest of the day.

Enjoy!